One of the biggest pitfalls so many partners fall into is not having enough time to be together with the person who is supposed to be the most significant person in their life. This can be especially true if you are in a long-term relationship. People get very set in their ways and used to the status quo… so they don’t go out of their way to take the loving and caring actions they did in the early days of their relationship. We all remember those days where the man is often giving flowers to his new love, and the woman is preparing candlelight dinners. However, a lot of those loving, caring actions stop as love takes over where lust left off.
It’s normal for some of those romantic advances to change over time. Those first few months, or even years of romancing a person are not supposed to last forever. Love changes, it grows over time. Romance is not necessarily love. Love is a choice and a decision you make every day. The way you can show your love is by making time for doing those thoughtful little things with and for your partner.
For instance, doing something as simple as putting your anniversary and birthdays onto your calendar so you never forget, is a great way of showing your care and concern for your partner. Make sure to put those important dates into an electronic online calendar where you get a reminder in advance. Forgetting important events is never helpful to the health of your relationship!
It’s also critical to make sure you block out time in your calendar to spend with your partner… even if you are busy! Have a date night or set aside time to make a phone call during your workday. Most of all, if you make a commitment to be somewhere or do something special with your partner, don’t break the commitment.
When you are spending time with your partner, make sure you are actually “there”. Thia means you should not be texting on your mobile phone or checking your e-mail over and over. Focus your attention on being in the present moment so your partner feels like they are really receiving your full attention. It’s important to leave your professional life behind when you’re spending personal time with your partner, family and friends. Remember at the end of your life, you won’t be worried about whether or not you worked enough hours. Instead, you will be thinking about the quality of the relationships you had throughout your lifetime.